Rowland Carlson

The Coaching Habit

The Coaching Habit

ISBN: 9780978440756
Date read: 2022-07-10
Recommended for: People who coach others.
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Ask open ended questions. Listen to the reponses. Create a habit to do both with curiosity.

my notes

What's on your mind?
And what else?
What's the real challenge here for you?
What do you want?
How can I help?
If you're saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?
What was most useful for you?

Coaching can be informal,
baked into ordinary conversation.

Coaching is a form of delegation through empowerment.

When changing behavior:
Have a plan for how to get back on track.

"We shape our buildings, and thereafter they shape us." -Winston Churchill

Ask one question at a time.

Beware stagnant agendas.

Just ask the question,
You don't need a preamble.

A haiku:

Tell less and ask more.
Your advice is not as good
As you think it is.

Practice asking with curiosity.
"For bonus points, practice listening to the answers."

When asking for alternatives,
"that's all there is." is the goal.

Only offer your own idea after they've exhausted all of theirs.
If so, say it directly.
Don't attach a question mark.

"The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place."
-George Benard Shaw

Strategy questions:
What is our winning aspiration?
Where will we play?
How will we win?
What capabilities must be in place?
What management systems are required?